Please come to our monthly community event for alumni, family members, and anyone else that is affected by addiction. Together we can get through what we cannot get through alone. We hope to provide support, encouragement, and an opportunity for growth.
Enjoy pizza and refreshments, followed by a recovery meeting as well as networking with others in the recovery community. The event is held in two locations- New Jersey and Florida. If you have a suggestion or an area you would like the events to be held please email us here! Virginia, Massachusetts & Wisconsin Events Coming SOON!!
Voorhees, NJ 108 Somerdale Rd. 7:00 pm – 8:30 pm Third Friday of Every Month
Palm Springs, FL 2764 S. Congress Ave. 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm Last Saturday of Every Month
You may be familiar with the old recovery cliche, “getting sober is easy; staying sober is hard.” Navigating your new life alone can seem like a daunting prospect. And now that you have given up on “people, places, and things,” it is natural to desire the closeness of another person. Many addicts new to recovery jump into relationships to avoid feeling alone. The sense of possibility that recovery brings you may make you feel ready for a new relationship. But most experts suggest waiting a year before diving into romance.
Early recovery is a time to work on yourself. It is a time to work on existing relationships still strained from your active addiction. One of the hardest things you will do in your recovery is facing your past mistakes to make amends. Romantic relationships are an easy way to avoid keeping the focus on you. But keeping the focus on you is crucial in the early months of recovery. Right now your recovery is so fresh that you may not be in the best mindset to pick the right romantic partner. Recovering drug addicts often attract other drug addicts. Two vulnerable people make for a problematic pairing in sobriety.
The Dangers of Dating
You may not realize it, but dating in early recovery poses a danger to your long-term sobriety. There are many reasons why:
Dating is a “high” like drugs and alcohol. Emotions you feel at the beginning of a new relationship are natural and healthy. The neurochemistry behind those feelings is like the effects of drugs and alcohol. You may be replacing one high for another.
Break-ups trigger relapses. Ending a relationship is tough for anyone. The pain is especially hard when you are learning to cope without illicit substances. A relationship that ends too soon may cause you to seek solace again with your drug of choice.
You open yourself up to vulnerability. As a newly recovering addict be wary of people looking to prey upon your vulnerable state. Watch out for addicts with years of sobriety who you may listen to as a mentor or sponsor. Keep the relationship professional.